Valdis does want to explain. He needs to know it isn't him and that what she asks of him isn't to lead him on or keep him away.

"I told her that I didn't feel that I had to hide parts of myself from you. That you were steady but gentle, like water. You move first to understanding and then, if necessary, work to solve the issue. You don't sit in anger or give in to unhelpful emotions. Being an empath, this makes you...nice to be around."